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Moving Forward

As Jessica Doyle bids a fond farewell to the role of Wisconsin’s first lady and Tonette Walker takes the reigns, we sat down with each to talk life, family, and what the future holds

By Meagan Parrish

Jessica Doyle photographed by David Watkins and John Ladwig
Tonette Walker photographed by David Watkins at Murphy Desmond, S.C. offices; hair and makeup by Rosalee Eichstedt

Jessica Doyle

A notable advocate for education statewide, she reflects on her goals, her achievements, and the way she wants to say goodbye

Stepping inside the governor’s mansion, it’s hard to not be impressed by the grandness of it all—the regal staircases, stately furnishings and high glass doors opposite the foyer that reveal a breathtaking view of Lake Mendota. And then there’s the residence’s grande dame: Jessica Doyle. Both gracious and warm, she enters the room and introduces herself in a way that—despite the formal setting—is clearly down to earth. 

Now at ease with the formalities of playing hostess at the state’s executive residence, playing the role of first lady is something Doyle never expected. Though she was no stranger to the world of politics—her mother-in-law was the first woman in Wisconsin elected to the state assembly and her own uncle had been a U.S. congressman and secretary of defense—living in the spotlight after her husband, Jim, became the 44th governor of Wisconsin was uncharted territory.

At the time Jim was elected, Doyle was a passionate educator. She earned her master’s degree from UW-Madison and worked for over 35 years as a teacher while her husband focused on public office—serving as the state’s attorney general for 12 years. But the transition to the job of first lady brought Doyle to a turning point. Sensing new horizons, she left her job at Cherokee Middle School on Madison’s west side and embraced this new path.

Playing the part of first lady is often a matter of interpreting roles and for Doyle, promoting education has been what it’s all about. Despite her gentle and often humble personality, the classroom has been where Doyle really comes alive. She traversed the state frequently, visiting schools and meeting teachers. Putting her own spin on the common image of a first lady reading to a room full of children, she engaged students statewide through online games, invited them to the residence to share their favorite books and later spoke out in support of her husband’s key education plans.

For Doyle, the last eight years have been marked by two campaigns, two terms in office, entertaining guests from around the state and the world, watching her family grow—the Doyles have two grown sons and two grandchildren—and advancing literacy efforts across Wisconsin. Now, as she looks back on her years as first lady, she reflects on her regrets, her hopes and how she’s preparing for the next phase of life. 

I want to start by going back to the night your husband was first elected governor eight years ago. What did it feel like in that moment to realize you were going to become the first lady?
The whole thing was completely overwhelming. It was really a close election and we both agreed that we would just take each day as it came. Jim had already been in office [as attorney general]. But the campaign for governor was so much more intense. We didn’t really ever think of the outcome. We convinced ourselves to just work as hard as we could during the campaign and we would be fine with the results. So all of us said, ‘Jim, you actually won!’ I was so proud. I felt so happy for him. It was as if…you just had this huge surprise. You’re speechless. 

As you started preparing to move into the executive residence, what were you most excited about?
Excited is surely a great word. We [met other new governors] in November [after the election] and I found that really reassuring. That’s when the excitement really started to pick up because until then, to be honest with you, it was a little frightening. Jim and I never considered ourselves to be special people. I started being excited about the fact that maybe I could understand education across the whole state. Looking back at Wisconsin, each governor’s spouse has always interpreted the role a little differently and that’s been fine. In a way it’s very much how Jim and our sons, Gus and Gabe, have always treated me, too, and that is: ‘Whatever you like to do, we’ll support you.’

You spent your career working as a teacher. Why were you drawn to being an educator?

I think back to when I was in third grade and my favorite activity was to play school. I was always the teacher and I’d get my poor sister—[who is] four years younger—into this small little study area. I’d close the door, and when she wanted to leave I’d tap my ruler and say, ‘It’s not time for recess.’ I just loved education. During college, I happened to be a French major and I was trying to figure what to do with it. I did consider maybe journalism or some kind of international work. But then I thought I should pick up a teaching degree so I had something [to fall back on]. And then I realized—this is what I want to do for the rest of my life.

After you became first lady, why did you decide to leave your career as a teacher?
That was a very difficult decision. I found myself going to the current governor’s spouses and asking, ‘What did you do?’ It was really the case that people were happiest being a spouse of a governor when they had devoted themselves to that role. When they were trying to do both at once, there was a lot of talk about the stress and the juggling. But the people that chose a couple of projects, they seemed very happy and very fulfilled. 

During your time as first lady, you were active in education in several ways. You engaged school-age children with an online game called “Where in Wisconsin is Jessica Doyle?” which gave them a set of clues about a city in the state so they could find where you were. You were also an outspoken supporter of your husband’s initiative—the Wisconsin Covenant—which encourages eighth graders to pledge they’ll get good grades, be good citizens, apply for college and seek government aid. Now looking back, are you satisfied with what you’ve been able to accomplish?
You always want to do more. Time has just flown by. I never dreamed eight years could go so fast. But when I think about it, I really enjoyed the “Where in Wisconsin is Jessica Doyle?” game. I did it at first because it was fun for me. I [also] thought that it would be a great way to develop state pride. It’s hard to be proud of something when people just tell you to be proud. But when you [learn] facts from answering a set of questions about a town [in Wisconsin], that adds up. [Also, the game allowed me to] learn what teachers [throughout the state] have been teaching [by] the way they use the game, and the way they really are producing students. 

When you say that you wish you could have done more, what do you mean?
My regrets come along these lines: I’ll meet a couple of really great teachers and students in one of our school visits. Maybe I was in Eau Claire and I’ll drive home and think that teacher really had an astounding class and I’ll think that I’ll want to keep in touch with that teacher. And I’ll wonder what made that class click or about that kid in the back who seemed so bright. And then I’ll never get back [to that class] and I’ll never get to tell that teacher [thank you] or find out more about that student. 

Have you and the governor ever disagreed about what he has done in office? How have you expressed disapproval?
That’s always a tough one, probably for any spouse. One of the wonderful parts our marriage—we have been married 44 years—[is that] he already knows how I feel about a lot of things and I already know how he feels. As far as sharing values and forming our valuesand having it evolve together … that happened long before he became governor. Now, if I should read something in the papers that I disagree with, I don’t say that much. I try to keep this house very stress free. We talk about normal things around here and I think that’s really important. Being governor is a very stressful and consuming and exciting job. And I figure if Jim comes home and wants to relax, this is the place. 

Your family is the 13th first family to live in the executive residence, and an average of 20,000 visitors come to your home each year. How do you manage to make this space feel like your personal home? 
For the first few months I was just terrified living here because it seemed so huge. On the weekends if there’s not an event, there’s just the two of us rattling around here—and it’s enormous. You can easily lose each other and not know where the other one is. 

I also want to respect the history of this place because a lot of people have lived here. So rather than say, ‘Oh, I don’t really like that chair,’ I’ve tried to really learn where it came from and just enjoy it. And upstairs we have our own little headquarters. So it’s kind of like a Residence Inn—or an assisted living unit. [laughs]

What’s next for you?
Sleep. [laughs] I’m telling myself that I’m going to take January off. I’m going to get a little sleep, step aside and then I’ll figure something out. 

Have you decided in what capacity you’ll still be involved in education?
I haven’t decided. Do I go back to work? Do I get connected with a nonprofit related to education? Or do I volunteer? That’s why it’s important that Jim and I get some rest because those are big decisions we have to make. 

How does it feel to move into this next phase of your life?
I feel that it will be somewhat of an unknown, but I’m convinced that it’s the right time. Jim has been in public office for 20 years. It’s good to let other people have these offices. I also think that if I stayed here four more years, I’d be so spoiled. [laughs]

I hear you’re shopping for a home in Madison. What kind of home do you hope to find?
Something small and one floor. There are only two of us and I never could have managed a house of this size on my own. 

You recently met Scott Walker and his wife, Tonette, and gave them a tour of the residence. Did you have any advice for the first lady-elect?
I had the advice that I’ve tried to give myself: Relax and enjoy it.

Though you’re saying goodbye to Wisconsin as first lady, will you be saying goodbye as a champion of education?
I hope I always stay engaged [with education]. When I say goodbye, it’s goodbye to this house and it’s much more of a thank you. I can’t tell you how many people have opened their doors to me and the governor. When I think about a regret that I have, it’s that I haven’t been able to tell people enough how much they’ve meant to us. I’ve just been so grateful for the support I’ve had from countless people across the state and I haven’t had a chance to tell them how much that’s meant. I’ve also seen how many people are behind every single office holder, how many volunteers work in campaigns, how many citizens write us nice notes. That makes such a tremendous difference. [It’s] very rewarding just to know there’s that kind of support in our state. 

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Tonette Walker

The new first lady of Wisconsin takes a look back at the journey that brought her here and her hopes for the road ahead

Tonette Walker is moving to Madison. Like most women, she has predictable concerns such as how she’ll make friends, which stores she’ll frequent for the necessities, or where she’ll send her two teenage boys to school. But unlike any other woman in Wisconsin, Walker has the added pressure of transitioning into an entirely unique role—the state’s first lady.


A Milwaukee native, Walker did not grow up involved in politics. Then 18 years ago she went out for karaoke night at Saz’s, a barbecue joint in Wauwatosa, and spotted Scott Walker across the bar. A widow who was 12 years his senior, Walker wasn’t looking for a relationship. But after exchanging a few light-hearted flirtations with the political upstart and a storybook first date, the rest was history. 

The following year the couple married and had their first son. The next year, their second son was born. As her children grew up and her husband was re-elected several times to represent Wauwatosa in the state assembly, Walker began to find her groove, both at home and in her career. Having spent 20 years working in the health insurance industry, she got involved with her sons’ PTA. She soon realized she was a natural with event planning and fundraising, and later found jobs organizing charitable events for health-related nonprofits such as the American Diabetes Association. Now that her husband has been elected governor, Walker has stepped down as the special events director at the American Lung Association to prepare for her family’s move.  

From the day her husband announced his candidacy to election eve, it was a long road. While some political spouses are happy to stay in the background, Walker wasn’t shy about being involved. During the campaign, she made her presence known, appearing in a television commercial to argue for her husband’s position on crime and sending letters to several newspapers across the state to staunchly defend his stance on stem cell research. Throughout the campaign, she could often be found by his side, putting her bubbly and gregarious personality to work as she shook hands with citizens across state.   

Now, with an exhausting campaign finally over, the family is looking ahead. As they gear up for a part of their lives that will be written into the pages of Wisconsin’s history, Walker’s thoughts remain mostly where they have been for the last 16 years—on her children. And, of course, on what kind of first lady she’d like to become.
Situated in a downtown office, overlooking the state Capitol building,Tonette Walker sat down to discuss her plans, her concerns and the side of Scott Walker most of us don’t know. 

Take me back to the night your husband, Scott, was elected governor. What was it like?

[Starts to tear up] I don’t know if I can answer that. During the day, we had done everything we possibly could and felt like if we didn’t win, it wasn’t meant to be. But Scott and I were in this reception for donors, doing our own thing and apparently someone had announced that we had won. And I remember walking up to Scott, and even now when I think about it … it was so cool. [laughs] I was so proud of him. It was so over-the-top emotional. 

Leading up to that night, what was the hardest part of the campaign?

The schedule; the long hours. You think it will never end. They always want you to do one more thing or go one more place. [As we traveled around the state] there were huge crowds and [we got] to thank people and find out how they felt. As the crowds would steadily grow, you start to think, ‘Wow, maybe this is going to happen.’

I’m realistic enough to know that it’s not ever going to be a normal schedule. But now I hope that we’re all living together in Madison that we’ll get to spend more time together as a family.

How did you end up working at nonprofits? 
When the boys started school I was in the PTA. I helped raised $10,000 for the library and I found [it was] something I really loved. It just was a perfect fit and people would say ‘That’s what you should be doing.’ So I’d think, ‘Who’d want to hire me to do that?’ I don’t have any real experience and you know, all those things we tell ourselves as women.

Then Scott was making the transition to county executive and at the same exact time I lost my job [at United Health Care, doing insurance claims]. My family was very involved in the American Diabetes Association, so when I got laid off I was asked to take a position [at the ADA organizing their diabetes walk].

After about two years of organizing diabetes walks, what did you do next?

My mom was diagnosed with a brain tumor so I left the ADA to take care of my mom. She was around for 19 months. Then I wasn’t sure what to do. I wanted to go back to a nonprofit. I loved what I did. 

Why did you get involved with the American Lung Association?
I loved event planning and raising money. When I got there and started hearing about lung transplants, people with COPD [a lung disease], smoking and young adults … it just hit home. 

Tell me about when you met Scott. What was it about him that drew you in? 
I had been married before. I was a widow. [At that time] I had been on my own for five years and I thought I had it all together. I thought if I never meet anyone, I’ll be fine. Then I was [at Saz’s] with my friend—she was divorced and we were living together—and Scott was there with his friend. We saw each other across the room and we were kind of looking at each other. I was waiting and then he wasn’t coming over—and then on his way out, he hands me this napkin. I thought, ‘Well, how rude. This guy is just giving me his trash on his way out!’ But [on the napkin] he wrote ‘Forgive me, I have to get up early in the morning to work but if you’d like to go out with me, call me.’

When we got engaged we went back to Saz’s and Scott wrote me a note that said ‘Forgive me, but will you marry me?’ Scott is very romantic. He tries not to let people know that. But he’s very sweet and kind. 

You mentioned in an interview that your parents were Democrats. What did they think about you marrying a Republican?

[laughs] In the beginning, they just thought it was infatuation and that Scott was going to go away! Scott and I are 12 years apart, so really that was more of an issue to my family than him being a Republican. They were Democrats and they were union people. But we didn’t talk a lot of politics. And once [Scott and I] were married and then my son was born the following year, my mom had grandchildren that were more important than [politics].

Did you ever think at the time that you’d end up here, as first lady?
You know it’s funny, because obviously, not in the beginning. [When we started dating] I did know he was in politics. Now did I know what that really meant at the time? Absolutely not. Did I think that we were going to end up here? [Pauses] I did. Because Iknow Scott. And I don’t mean that to sound arrogant. I just mean that I knew he wanted that. I didn’t know when or how. I couldn’t tell you what year or who we were going to run against. I just knew that this position was something he wanted. 

What are your plans now as first lady? 

I don’t have any specific plans yet. I was fortunate enough to spend a week with other governors and their wives from all over the country and [listen to some first ladies] talk plainly about some of the things they did and some of the things they suggest we don’t do. And really, one of the things [to do at first] is do nothing. Settle your family, talk to other people. 

[Then] I will be putting together an advisory board. It will be women from every county from all over the state and from different fields. [From that I hope to] really get a feel for what I want to do. There are a few organizations that are dear to my heart. But have I specifically made a commitment to them? Not yet. 

Have you decided what you might hope to accomplish?

At first I thought it might be health care, but as I’m being approached by other people and organizations and learning more about [the range of] possibilities that I might have, I cannot tell you that it [will be] health care. But I do have type-1 diabetes, so health care is important to me. 

Is there anything that makes you nervous about becoming the first lady?

Everything. [laughs] I wish I could see the future [and see if my] sons will be OK. Will they look back years from now and say ‘Thanks mom and dad’? But really what’s important is just us being together and taking it one day at a time.

During the campaign, you spoke out about your husband’s stance on stem cell research and publicly defended him in a television ad. Is this what we can expect from Tonette Walker? Do you see yourself as being publicly outspoken about your opinions?
I don’t see that as a role I’m going to play. I spoke out on those two issues because I felt that Scott was being attacked … and I felt very strongly [about the issues]. But that was part of the campaign and I don’t see that I would [need to] speak out about [my opinions]. 

But you’re not opposed to publically expressing your point of view? 

Will I be outspoken about things that I’m passionate about? Yes. Hopefully I’ll do that respectfully and not just use the first lady’s platform to influence people. I’m not really like that. 

Being governor is a busy job, as I’m sure you’re aware. Are there any traditions in your family that you’ll want to make sure Scott doesn’t miss?
He knows what they are. [laughs] Scott knows what’s important to me and I know that he’ll be where he needs to. One thing is that Scott is an excellent scheduler and he literally schedules time for us. And I know the governor’s office is probably going to really change things and it won’t be as easy for him. But I’ve said this from day one of being in politics: If Scott could be anywhere else, he’d be with us.

What are you most excited by, coming into this role and moving to Madison?

I think I’m the most excited about living at the residence. I’ve only heard good things about Madison, so I look forward to exploring the city and getting to know the farmers’ market and some of the shops. I hear that it’s a great place to raise a family, so I’m looking forward to that. [This is] definitely a next phase of life. 

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